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I have not been able to sleep tonight…. too excited to think about getting to drive for a long distance… and mosquitos as well.. hehehe… so i get up at 0130 hrs after going off to sleep at 2300 hrs yesterday to fight some of these small but irritating creatures… someone temme what role do they play in the entire food cycle !!! i am missing neha right now… for a couple of reasons… One there are chances that if she was here in india.. she would have joined me on this trip.. which would have been jussssssssst wonderful… and two she can tell me about the mosquitoes…
ok coming back to the trip thingie…. Aro is still in the office and there is no cab that can drop him around NOIDA till like 0630 hrs… banking on our manager Amit to drop him to NOIDA !!!! now when would he leave office… lets see… I really wanted to start early so that we could beat the early morning traffic and reach Rishikesh as early as possible… around 1000 hrs is when I think we would be able to reach if we leave around 0500 hrs…. Lets see when do i leave and when i reach there… the idea is to drive up in the mountains for another 100 kms before we stop.. spend the night there and then come back to rishikesh on sunday morning to do some rafting and stuff…
but then u never know… once me and aro meet.. we might just change the plan of where we are going 🙂 might go to chandigarh as well… or is Jim Corbett a good idea?… lets see…

bai bai for now… the next i think i would write on would be monday….. till then this is your host and buddy Prashant signing off !!!! Have a wonderful weekend 🙂

I never thought ke main sher bhi likh sakta hoon !!!! But then what the heck… Writer to sabke ander hota hai 🙂
to sahibaan meherbaan kadardaan paandaan peekdaan meri jaan kabristaaan… arz kiya hai :

Kuch is tarah chalte rahe andheri raat mein hum,
ke manzil ka pata nahi aur chalna chor nahi sakte…

Doooooooo Try This At Home !!! 🙂

A ten year-old Jewish boy was failing math. His parents tried everything
from tutors to hypnosis; but to no avail. Finally, at the insistence of a
family friend, they decided to enrol their son in a private Catholic school.
After the first day, the boy’s parents were surprised when he walked in
after school with a stern, focused and very determined expression on his
face. He went straight past them, right to his room and quietly closed the
door.For nearly two hours he toiled away in his room with math books strewn
about his desk and the surrounding floor. He emerged long enough to eat, and
after quickly cleaning his plate, went straight back to his room, closed the
door and worked feverishly at his studies until bedtime. This pattern of
behaviour continued until it was time for the first quarter’s report card.
The boy walked in with it unopened, laid it on the dinner table, and went
straight to his room. Cautiously, his mother opened it and, to her
amazement, she saw a large red ‘A’ under the subject of Math. Overjoyed, she
and her husband rushed into their son’s room, thrilled at his remarkable
progress.
“Was it the nuns that did it?” the father asked.
The boy shook his head and said, “No.”
“Was it the one-to-one tutoring? The peer-mentoring?”
“No.”
“The textbooks? The teachers? The curriculum?”
“No”, said the son.
“On that first day, when I walked in the front door and saw that guy nailed
to the Plus Sign, I KNEW they meant business!”

Have been thinking of writing for a few days now.. but just could not get started… the feeling has to come from within to come out with words.. here is what is happening to me in the last few days…
friday april 08….. martina had to come from goa and i was supposed to pick her up from the station…
*flashback*
neha wrote an email saying that some friend of hers was starting on a world tour and india was her first destination…. i was to take care of her when she reaches delhi… and plan her trip around here… martina called from goa on the 6th and told me that she was taking a train that leaves goa at 0500 hrs and reaches delhi at 1700 hrs the next day.. this is where the conversation ended… and i could not find out which train she was taking… finally she called me on the 7th and told me the train number… now i knew which train she was coming in… i still did not know how i will recognise her and how she would know me…

*back to the present in history*
she called me after getting out of the station.. and we met….. i was prepared to use all the accent i learnt in my call centre exp.. roll all the “r”s and let her know thati could speak english well as well 🙂 anyway it was a comfortable introduction.. and we could talk easily… we still had to figure out where she is going to stay… so we moved out of the station… ate raj kachauri at Comesum… and i had a tough time explaining to her what all was there in the dish 🙂 forgot what half of the ingredients are refered to as in angrezi… anyway… from there to Humayun’s tomb.. and found out that she was not really interested in forts or castles.. but was very keen in having a look the city.. get to know india from inside.. and not from a tourist point of view….

over the next two days… we talked about india, its culture.. differences in india and germany… how thoughts differ in the two countries… we talked about the gita, Brahma, Shiva, Vishnu, Pushkar, Ganga, Mahabharata, Pandavas and a lot of other things…we went around the city.. went to dilli haat, india gate, upsc chaat wala, sunday book market at darya ganj, a friend’s reception, metro rail, CP, eatopia, noida etc etc…. and the best part.. she spent two nights at a friend’s place in def col… he and his wife really took care of her, and she was very happy to be there…

sunday evening.. she went to jaipur and would be back to delhi on friday night… so that we can go to rishikesh for river rafting on saturday morning !!! There were a lot of small small things that I have missed out on.. but i guess i would be able to speak about them instead of putting them in printed words…

This burthday was different too… this time i was wondering about the amazing difference in what she was going at an age of 20 and where I was at 26 years…brought me a thoughts of wondering about what all i have done in the past all years of my existance.. and what i really want to do… where do i really want to go… what is it that i am aiming for in my life… there are a lot of questions that are hitting me from everywhere.. and i am trying to figure out how to move ahead on my way to these answers…

10-04-05 0907 hrs :

So the budday night starts with a call… i pick it up..and its from a “private number”… well.. who can it be… and its my dearest friend… Neha…. she was calling from her Lab in Paris…. we talked for a while… and then kept the phone down…. i think i got two messages during time time…. and even Aro called… i for some reasons never have felt that my birthday is a special day.. but then so many ppl calling me, wishing me… make it so very special for me…. Neha, Bhoomi, Vinod Mama, Danu Dimple, have called me so far… and i have messages from Raina, Nidhi, Adi, Aro, Bindu ma’am, Batra Bawla, Pawan, Dinesh Chacha and my cousins there, Sudip, Priya Rajpal…. and ofcourse.. my cousins Ashu, and Puneet are here with me… When I was talking to neha in the night… they were putting a candle on the cake they brought for me… after I do not know how many years i cut a burthday cake.. it was very sweet of them 🙂 And mom dad are here to gimme all the wishes I need to have a life better and happier…will write more !!!! there is a lot to happen 🙂

1900 hrs…
Waquar called… Neha’s dad called… Batra Called.. Neeraj called… Aro called… ruchi called… Maya didi called…… i am feeling important today… I also got a bouquet in the morning today.. lotsa roses.. and i do not know who sent it across… secret admirers.. or some friends who forgot to tell his/her name to the flowerist… welll… time will tell… still sometime to go before the day ends and i complete 26 years of my existence on this planet earth… lets see how the next few hours go by 🙂

God bless me !!!!

Tareekh : 5-April’05
Jagah : Cafe Coffee Day
Waqt : Raat ke 9:30 Baje

Me and Tushar had dinner outside yesterday… and then we went for a walk in sector-18…. went to the cafe coffee day in Centre Stage Mall and that is where this discussion started… though Tushar did not do much other then nodding his head and agreeing to me for most of the points but still I feel it was a good conversation…

ME : Yaar, I want to get a part-time job in McDonalds. No no.. not really McDonalds but a cafe like Barista or Cafe Coffee Day.

Toosh : Good idea… but then we do not have that kinda coffee bars where you would be respected as a professional and ppl would like to get into conversations with you. Not like what we see in TV serials on Star or Zee Cafe where you have a coffee bar and ppl come there, meet friends, and talk over coffee or muffins or donuts and the owner of the cafe or for that matter someone who works there is also a part of your conversations and your friend list….

*and this is where the talkative devil in me came to life, and I started speaking about what i felt and Toosh kud only say hmm or nod his head*

Me : Very true… I can only stand over the counter and serve.. nothing else… but then there is another thought that comes to my mind… why don’t we have new friends being made in such cafes… or for that matter.. how many times do you remember yourself approaching a group or an individual to talk just like that… now, why does that happen…. here is what i feel why that happens :
1) Most guys are looking for women with whom they end up in a dark corner of a street with or in bed with… and not really looking around for friends…
2) Most women know that they are being looked at and approached only to be treated as sex objects.. and definitely do not like to be approached by strangers…
3) The genuine guys also get treated as some road side onlookers who are only looking around for girlfriends.
4) I have not seen a gal ever approaching a guy, probably because she will be treated as a despo or something…
*This is where I stopped*

*afterthoughts*
This is something that happens or does not happen out on the streets, in the malls, in the cafes, in restaurants… as Tushar said rightly that we have so much fear of rejection in our minds that we do not even smile when we have an eye contact with ppl while walking driving… we carry our expressionless face just perfectly during all those moments which otherwise would help us break the ice !!!

I feel that once we start feeling that what we do not have to start off with any relationship whether short or long term thinking that we have to achieve something out of it.. but take it as something that carries on.. something that does not endup in bed or in a car… something that is for your mind and for yourself as a person…

There are a lot of things that I am thinking at the same time right now.. from why don’t we have good thought provoking conversations to making new friends and new places to why don’t we approch people without the fear of being rejected….and i think i have mixed up some of the many thoughts that came to me…

might be continued…
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Aseem, Me and Jassi (L to R) @ Barista in Ansals Plaza…

So orkut finally meets in Delhi… some faces some ppl who i had met virtually came alive… had read them for sometime.. but seeing them in person was a thought that made me nervous, that made me excited, thoda sa tense… if it was not for aseem, who i know for more then an year now, I would have been really uncomfortable meeting this new gang…

so there I was in Ansals plaza, at 1850 hrs… well 10 minute ahead of time.. and as expected, there was no one to greet me as a celebrity in the Barista 🙂 so i got up and went to place where I feel at home… Music World… looking at all the movies that I want to watch, and the ones that I want to buy… i picked up Lakshya, i like that movie a lot… but later i kept it back… at the end of my 20 odd minute visit to the music world I came out happier with Top Gun, Face Off, That thing you do, and the hindi comedy Masti….

back to barista around 1925 hours… ask the counter fella if there are ppl from Orkut there… and he looks at me with a face which tells me that he has not heard this word ever… anyway.. i order my fav. Mango smooothieeeeeee.. and settle down on a table near the rear exit of the coffee bar… meri kismat.. the only newspaper i could manage to get to read there was “financial times” i do not have a clue about what was written that paper..except that one article about cars and insurance caught my attention and helped me learn something more about the entire insurance thingie… while i was reading that.. some guy came and asked for the paper.. and took that greek of a paper away from me 🙂

anyway… called up aseem to find out where he was and he with jassi praji and the night nisha managed to reach there around 1940 hours… IST is it? Indian Strechable time 🙂 and talked for a while.. after the introductions and were joined by Bhaskar and another friend of his… Can’t remember his name… did he even tell it? can’t even remember that… anyway.. i finished my smoothie… we took a couple of pictures of the gang… nisha and jassi went to the bookshop to get some tarot cards, and me, aseem, bhaskar and his friend continued talking.. it was good to see that there was a good amount of comfort in that meeting…

Getting bored of sitting in barista, we moved out to the amphie theatre… and sat there for a while, before jassi and nisha joined us back… now we decided to eat… offered jassi some south indian food, and he hated the idea.. hehehehe.. he has been in banglore for a while now.. and going to hyderabad.. what else do you expect… nisha wanted to have a burger… and she wanted to have it from pizza express for some reason… bhaskar and the friend, were open to eat anywhere.. i suggested bangali sweets in south ex. but that did not click.. so my next proposal was to go to my fav. restaurant in the India Habitat Centre, Eatopia… i just love that place…. so we all agreed to meet there again… in a while ofcourse… CUT !!!

Dilli meets in eatopia : Scene II : we met again… took some pictures again.. and talked… aseem and jassi and nisha went and ordered some food and got it later too.. so that we all could eat… nisha maidam got some nachos and some sauce.. which would now be famous as “Papad ke tukde and Tamatar ki Chatni“… and we also ate some tandoori rotis and makhni dal 🙂 masta food i tell you… spent about 45 odd minutes in there.. and then decide to call it a day… hoping to meet again soon… for another wonderful evening….

here is something about all the ppl i met

Aseem : still the same cool dude always good with words and has a lot of energy…
Jassi : very calm quiet and a composed fella… very talkative on orkut and a completely different individual in person for starters i think.. i think i takes his time and starting to speak…. thoda bolo par achcha bolo.. aisa wala hai wo !!!
Bhaskar and his friend : Engineers in making, bhasker from NSIT, and his friend from DCE… good fellas..nice company.. good to talk to…
Nisha : dominating and authoritative lady… does not understand what is written “agar hum hindi ko english mein likhen…” 🙂
and finally me: as good or as bad as ever… talked to everyone, was nervous in the beginning, though i am sure no one noticed…and quite comfy later… a part of the gang !!!

chalen.. bas karte hain… this was all about this meeting on the April Fools day.. turned out to be one day I would like to remember for a long time…
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This day also reminded me that it was one complete year that i had left Hughes… time really flies by….i feel good that I still am in touch with a lot of ppl there.. and have not lost out on the gem of the friends i have made in that organisation…
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chalo chalta hoon.. aaj saturday hai.. chutti ka din.. ma badaulat thoda aur aaram karna chahte hain 🙂

Some technical updates to the blog have been done…

• Now the posts would be displayed before the content on the left side so that everyone has quicker access to the my posts, the accessories will open later… Idea courtsey Tushar bhai !!!
• There is a small poll on the page, about why ppl blog… just two votes so far on that.. lets see how it moves ahead…
• There is a link called world map.. credit goes to missnupur’s blog for this link… if you click there.. it opens a page with a world map where you can place a pin and write a comment.. that way i can know where are you reading ma blog from…

There is something going on in my mind… par abhi nai likhunga.. shayad kal !!!! lets see…

Have been thinking over this for a few days now…

Are gurls any different when it comes to choosing a boyfriend and/or a husband as compared to guys when they are on the lookout for a gurlfriend/wife…
I will start with what guys usually look out for… (This is not about me or anyone in specific, but what I have seen and noticed)
Gurlfriend :
~ Should look good, no no.. should look reeealy good…
~ Should be able to go out when we have time…
~ Should be………..
damn !!!! I cannot figure out what guys want from a girlfriend…. oh yes….
~ Should not start talking about commitment and all…
~ Should be open to physical relations…

And when it comes to getting married, we completly change our stands.. and want a different person as a wife…
~ She not being very beautiful is ok, she basically should understand me and my family…
~ Spending time together is essential, but not at the cost of individual space and independence…
~ Should be commited towards me and my family…
~ Should not have any history of affairs…

Strange how we want two completely different persons in our lives at different stages… I guess most of the affairs turn to relationships and then to marriages as the two ppl involved grow together from the first stage to second and so on…

Why such relationships do not work out.. no idea… i guess because the expectations start changing, life becomes different… not too sure though… someone would need to gimme some gyan on this…

Coming back to the main thought… is there is a difference of stands when gurls are looking at boy friends and husbands… Some might agree and some might not.. Some might get angry hearing this, and some might just ignore it…
Boyfriend:
~ Should be smart…
~ Should have a vehicle to roam around in the town…
~ Should have money to spend as well…
~ Should be commited…

Husbands:
~ Should be fairly good looking… Does not really matter if he is very smart or not…
~ Should be career and family oriented…
~ and so on….. not able to find a lot of words here….

i feel i have not been able to write all what we want and need in the points mentioned above.. but the idea is to figure out myself and with the help of a few ppl who read this blog.. how our expectations.. our aims, our needs change at different stages of our lives… at one point of time we are looking forward to just a good time and companionship… though that continues throughout our lives.. but after a while, some other thoughts and expectations take over.. when we start expanding our thoughts to things which would make our life stable and worth living…

i guess its more like having different coloured balls in a big bucket, every colour is a quality that we need in our partner… at one stage of life, we want some colours and and at a later time, we want to shake the bucket and have the other colours too…

I am also waiting for some colours to come to my life.. wonder what kinda would they be 🙂