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Went through the pictures of the winter Paralympics! and I feel so small!!!

Jaw dropping

and simple plain inspirational!!!

Everything that I crib about, feels so lame!!!!

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17 March 2010
The Great Indian Wedding

Cliche’d Title… rightly so.. there is so much so cliche’d about the Indian Wedding that one would not even know where to start from. I intend to write about my observations about an Indian wedding, or maybe a “how it’s done for people from UP” wedding as I walk through the course myself (in due course of time) and how I see things happening around!

What you read below is something that I had written about a month ago at a small gathering at my cousin’s place!

I am sitting at my cousin’s place attending a small function where his future in-laws have come to formalize the marriage and start formally calling him the son-in-law or Damaad. My cousin is a very soft spoken family guy and has been agreeing to most of the things a very typical arranged marriage system offers and demands from a groom-to-be, right from meeting the girl for not more than 10 minutes, and that too after the marriage was fixed, not talking too much with the girl till marriage, to adjusting with the marriage of two families.

Yes, in India its families that are married and not just bride and the groom. I am sitting amongst auntijies and taijis, and mausijis and chachijies and what not, who remember me by my nick name and find it very awkward associating a 30 year old man with a name like that! This cousin in question is younger than me and a part of all initial conversations, and no points for guessing, is when am I getting married? or why am I not yet married? Mom over years have perfected a response to this question, which is, Baat Chal Rahi hai, Dekho kya hota hai! i.e. there are talks going on, let’s see when things take shape! It does stop any further questions, however not before an elaborate mention of some distant relatives daughter who is very pretty, slim, tall, well educated and comes from a family like none other!

Me not being married is a big concern also because most men of my age in their opinion have atleast two kids, one of which is already going to a school! My dear friend Prashant, the clock is ticking! tick tock tick tock!

Now that the fact that I am not yet married and would soon be getting married, is established in the conversation, I now get treated like any other kid around. Everyone suddenly has this uncontrollable urge to stuffing me with food, and the keen observation that I have reduced weight and I look weaker than before comes alive! The fact that no one around has seen me for years, and have no clue of what I used to look like even an year ago has very little or no statistical impact on this observation!

Whatever said and done, this overwhelming affection that you get in Indian homes from people you know and people you don’t, makes India a better country to be in from the rest of the world!

A couple of hours later, after the girl’s family has completed the “Ladka Hamara Hua” (the boy is ours) formalities, the environment is suddenly a lot louder and happier. Pleasantries have been exchanged, sweets distributed, and envelops with 10 and 50 rupee notes have been given by the bride’s father to my mausiji for distribution in the family… These envelops equal the number of people in the family, first cousins of my cousin, brothers and kids of my mausaji’s and their family, and who and what nots… This is some sort of a ritual that is important, and is called Milai, something that you give when you formally meet the boy’s family, only in this case they have met just a handful of people they got envelops for!

There are some kids roaming around the house and according to the auntijis mine should have been a part of that gang, but that is beside the point! There is this li’il girl about 5 years old who is looking at her reflection in the glass door of a showcase and calling it a ghost! Cute! and that makes her the centre of attention now. I am writing this and am trying to read “Chai Chai” ( I need to write my thoughts about that book too soon)

The ladies in the room are also talking about the various connections between various people and how they are related to each other through some distant chacha or mama or mausi aur dewar or bhabhi and so on… During all this relationship networking, what stands out is the fact that all the women in this room still refer to themselves along with the village they belong to! and there is a certain amount of pride which is associated in this reference! interesting!

Infact, for a long time I used to refer to Kariyari (my mother’s village) as mine, which irked my grandfather (Father’s father) like nothing else… That’s is another story that I would write sometime later!

For now, the people have started dispersing and its time for me to get back home!

15 March 2010
Life is Good!
- A full bus with waiting, but still getting a seat!
- Getting out of the bus stand without mugged by the guys hard-selling hotels in the city!
- Having a car to drive and a post midnight snack in an open air restaurant on the 8th floor of a hotel in the not so crowded area!
- Pyaz Kachodi before sunrise
- Tea @ the tea shop of Brij Bihari Yadavji at sunrise
- Walking around a fort early morning
- Sleeping through most of the day
- Walking around busy markets in the evening
- 1:00 a.m. coffee after driving 125 kms
- Though stimulating conversations throughout the night, and reaching home at 4 in the morning!!
Life is great! I think I said good before, but no! its GREAT! 🙂
14 March 2010
2009 in Pictures – July

After a gap of almost 2 months I am getting back to posting the rest of 2009 In Pictures now… This time around lets see how July was in 2009… It was full of loads of excitement, summers had arrived, festivals were on the charts, flowers were blooming, and traveling to new places was planned…

Let’s go to July 2009 then!!!! Enjoy! (pssst…this post has a lot of photographs… be patient while scrolling down! I would not like it if you miss some pictures!)

July started with a flight to Atlanta! Aditya was there from India on a project and I felt this was just the right opportunity to fly down south and enjoy some mountains. I was really excited because this was the first time I was going to see mountains in the US… Did I say I love mountains? I do!!!

Smokies! here I come!

Reached Atlanta late in the evening and the Sun Gods were still waiting to welcome me at the airport!

Adi was driving a Pontiac G6! and I had another reason to celebrate because of this fact! I had been trying to rent out a G6 for a long time now, and it happened when I was least expecting 🙂 lovely!

The GPS I was carrying was giving a lot of trouble, it used to get lost, or take us to places where we not really were going to! but we still managed to drive all the way to Smokies with some help from the road signs! Figured that if you keep your eyes, open you might not need a GPS afterall!

The first pit stop was creekside after we crossed the small town of Cherokee in the state of North Carolina! Amazing beautiful road, covered with greenest of green trees, with a small creek flowing next to the road! Perfect mood for an amazing drive!

And needless to say there were a whole lot of bikers enjoying the warm weather on their Harleys on that road!

Below is the east side view from Chingman’s dome, the highest point in the Smokies… Its an artificially built cement view point to give visitors a 360 degree view of the Smokies. I can only imagine how crowded it would get if it was India, more because of the smalltime shopkeepers, of which all I missed was a Chai-Wala… Sigh!

The western view has the state boundary of NC and Tennessee, like you see in the picture below…

The access to Clingman’s Dome below!

And finally the beautiful Smokies!!!! Pictures can capture only a part of how beautiful these were… but to be honest, nothing in this world is as beautiful as the Himalayas!!! Call be prejudiced! but that’s how it is! simple!

It was the 4th of July when I was in Atlanta and all towns, big or small on our way had fireworks going on… We drove past two, but decided to stop at the third one and enjoy the show…

And did not do much the other two days I was in Atlanta… the most eventful thing being, that I saw Transformers2 on IMAX (huge is an understatement for that screen) and ICE Age 3 back to back!

Back in Milwaukee, it was time for Festivals and Fairs…

Bestille Days and Great Circus Parade were scheduled over the next few weeks… This is when staying in the heart of downtown, and next to the lake was making more sense than anything else 🙂

Bastille days is a 4 day french festival which is celebrated every year in Milwaukee downtown at the Cathedral Square lawns! Perfect time to enjoy some exotic wine and food… Me being a vegetarian and a non-wine drinker, made myself happy with elaborate helpings of Egyptian Rice, Greek salads and fresh lemonade while walking around and enjoying some brilliant music performances in the evenings!

The photographs below are a mix of Great Circus Parade and Bastille Days!

Beautiful father son combo 🙂 Saw many dads wearing the same stuff as their boys! sweet!

Family planning is something that has not been introduced to some in the US I guess…

And I am sure this horse’s mom had an affair with some Dalmatian!

Fairs and festivals are one place where I see some family values being displayed in the US… most of my time otherwise was spent noticing the teenagers and youth, which did not seem to be moving in any direction but everywhere! It was a very nice refreshing change to see families together at these festivals… but it was mostly kids and parents, or old people.. the young guns were not many in number around these… Considered boring I guess, by them!

There was an actual circus happening too! and it was really interesting to see how kids in the US react to Camels and Elephants 😛

India still means something very different when it comes to Circus.. check out the face and India… I would love to look for someone who looks like this in India now 🙂

Another good thing about social gathering’s in the US is that people of all age (minus the ones I mentioned) fully enjoy themselves!!! They drink, they dance, they laugh!!! it was fun to observe!!

My favorite couple in the US… Deepali and Gaurav…

My parking lot and collectibles I acquired over time…

Bindiya had handed over Ganeshji to me when I went to UK for the first time in 2007… they have been with me since! I am sure he is enjoying the mid-western weather in summers!

And the month ended with an absolutely brilliant and mind boggling sky show at Lake Front…

The adrenaline rush when a jet flies just about 100 ft above your head is indescribable… How kids cry after that is a different story altogether!

So that’s how July of 2009 was… Did you read anything or just saw the pictures?

8 March 2010
Did you know?

That the railway tracks are checked by gangmen, every 2 kilometers about 10 minutes before a Rajdhani or a Shatabdi is to cross.

Watch out for more about Indian Railways on Chai ki Dukaan!!!!

7 March 2010
Important Announcements!!!

I am happy to launch two important websites today!!!!

1. www.sopaan.org : This is the website that is dedicated to my social responsibility initiative and is supported by a group of friends who are as serious about doing some for the society as I am… Initially this would be focussed at raising funds for grass-root level initiatives, and sharing information about various NGOs that are in existence and have a similar mindset. A lot on Sopaan is still under construction or review, and I would keep working on it while its open to everyone to view. Please do feel free to leave comments, share ideas and thoughts, or give me some feedback.

2. www.AndPictures.net :Photography for me has never been about a picture only, infact its the places, the people, and the moment which is of primary importance for me “and pictures” come later… This website would serve as my online portfolio and is a step towards professional photography.

I have been able to do this because of the amazing support that has been extended to me from everyone around. I do not dream to make it big, but I do dream to make an impact in whatever capacity I can with time!!!!

In addition to that, let me also invite you all to a group exhibition that I am a part of.. The exhibition opens on 4th of March in India Habitat Centre, Lodhi Road, New Delhi. Please do make it convenient to attend.

2 March 2010
Holi(day) aftereffects

Holi could not be complete without a few songs for me… Though I do not really play, and mostly because of lack of company, which has led to Holi being just one of the many days in a year, I still think that the following songs make the festival worth it… Did not do much or anything about Holi today, but thought of putting these songs together in a post before the day ends!

Its impossible to rank these songs in any particular order and hence just a random sequence…

Enjoy!!!!

1 March 2010
Is sab ke zimmedaar! aap hain!!!!

Shukriya

धन्यवाद

gracias

dankie

благодаря

děkuji ti

bedankt

salamat

merci

Danke

σε ευχαριστώ

תודה

grazie

ありがとうございました

terima kasih

dziękuję

obrigado

gracias

asante

ขอบคุณ

Спасибо

ddiolch ‘ch

and like i said… ye sab aapki wajah se hua hai 🙂

26 February 2010
सुंदरकाण्ड – हनुमान्‌जी की सुरसा से भेंट

चौपाई :

जात पवनसुत देवन्ह देखा। जानैं कहुँ बल बुद्धि बिसेषा॥
सुरसा नाम अहिन्ह कै माता। पठइन्हि आइ कही तेहिं बाता॥
आजु सुरन्ह मोहि दीन्ह अहारा। सुनत बचन कह पवनकुमारा॥
राम काजु करि फिरि मैं आवौं। सीता कइ सुधि प्रभुहि सुनावौं॥

देवताओं ने पवनपुत्र हनुमान्‌जी को जाते हुए देखा। उनकी विशेष बल-बुद्धि को जानने के लिए उन्होंने सुरसा नामक सर्पों की माता को भेजा, उसने आकर हनुमान्‌जी से यह बात कही, आज देवताओं ने मुझे भोजन दिया है। यह वचन सुनकर पवनकुमार हनुमान्‌जी ने कहा- श्री रामजी का कार्य करके मैं लौट आऊँ और सीताजी की खबर प्रभु को सुना दूँ

तब तव बदन पैठिहउँ आई। सत्य कहउँ मोहि जान दे माई॥
कवनेहुँ जतन देइ नहिं जाना। ग्रससि न मोहि कहेउ हनुमाना॥
जोजन भरि तेहिं बदनु पसारा। कपि तनु कीन्ह दुगुन बिस्तारा॥
सोरह जोजन मुख तेहिं ठयऊ। तुरत पवनसुत बत्तिस भयऊ॥

तब मैं आकर तुम्हारे मुँह में घुस जाऊँगा और तुम मुझे खा लेना । हे माता! मैं सत्य कहता हूँ, अभी मुझे जाने दे। जब किसी भी उपाय से उसने जाने नहीं दिया, तब हनुमान्‌जी ने कहा- तो फिर मुझे खा न ले उसने योजनभर मुँह फैलाया। तब हनुमान्‌जी ने अपने शरीर को उससे दूना बढ़ा लिया। उसने सोलह योजन का मुख किया। हनुमान्‌जी तुरंत ही बत्तीस योजन के हो गए

जस जस सुरसा बदनु बढ़ावा। तासु दून कपि रूप देखावा॥
सत जोजन तेहिं आनन कीन्हा। अति लघु रूप पवनसुत लीन्हा॥
बदन पइठि पुनि बाहेर आवा। मागा बिदा ताहि सिरु नावा॥
मोहि सुरन्ह जेहि लागि पठावा। बुधि बल मरमु तोर मैं पावा॥

जैसे-जैसे सुरसा मुख का विस्तार बढ़ाती थी, हनुमान्‌जी उसका दूना रूप दिखलाते थे। उसने सौ योजन मुख किया। तब हनुमान्‌जी ने बहुत ही छोटा रूप धारण कर लिया और उसके मुख में घुसकर तुरंत बाहर निकल आए और उसे सिर नवाकर विदा माँगने लगे। उसने कहा मैंने तुम्हारे बुद्धि-बल का भेद पा लिया, जिसके लिए देवताओं ने मुझे भेजा था

दोहा :

राम काजु सबु करिहहु तुम्ह बल बुद्धि निधान। आसिष देइ गई सो हरषि चलेउ हनुमान॥

तुम श्री रामचंद्रजी का सब कार्य करोगे, क्योंकि तुम बल-बुद्धि के भंडार हो। यह आशीर्वाद देकर वह चली गई, तब हनुमान्‌जी हर्षित होकर चले

20 February 2010
There IS something in the name!

Shakespear said, “What’s in a name?”

I said there is a lot!!! Would you enter a store which is called Resham, to buy cotton kurtas…or would you go to a cafe called BanarsiDas Tambuwale to have coffee? I guess not!!!! Name does help make a connection… add some jazz to things, shops, brands and so on and so forth!!!

A friend of mine, is planning a stint with enterprunership and needs some help from Chai Ki Dukaan readers… So what is needed from you is to suggest a name that captures the essence of the Indian handicrafts industry…colours, crafts, unexplored talent in rural India. For all you know, the name that you suggest might be a popular brand a few years down the line, and you get some amazing discounts on the stores which keep that brand!

So go ahead… suggest!!!

16 February 2010