Taking a break from the internet and laptops and cell phones for a while !!!
Will be back sometime in 5-6 days !!!
Take care everyone ! God bless !
Taking a break from the internet and laptops and cell phones for a while !!!
Will be back sometime in 5-6 days !!!
Take care everyone ! God bless !
I think closeness between two individuals is not really a function of how many happy moments you share, but in reality, a function of how many times you were sad and you went to the other person to seek solace !!!
Now what is important here is that..
1. You should not try to resolve something that someone is sharing with you !!! More often than not, they just want to get it out of their system (I think I know why a lot of people write anonymous hidden blogs, because the blog would just listen and not really try to resolve; is that a reason why I still love my car like crazy even after 4 years? I guess yes ! because she listens to me !)
2 If you are with the person, make sure that the other person is sitting comfortably, and not on a uncomfortable barista chair, or a awkward bench…. try to go for a walk while you hear that person out…

3 Stay quiet but keep looking at him/her… a gentle pat on the back, or holding the hand will only help the entire situation
4 DO NOT try to be FUNNY… most people cannot appreciate humor when they are sad !!! but will cry very quickly just after they have laughed their ass out !
5 Over a medium like phone… keep acknowledging that you are hearing and please do hear and not just do the hmms every now and then…
6 Over a medium like chat, read what they are writing and do not really try to resolve unless asked for help and the usual pointers when someone needs help are when they ask a question… at this time too, they are probably looking for an assurance and comfort… so give it to them..
7 Play the devils advocate once they are done speaking
8 Get funny when they are tired of speaking
9 If you were walking, see if you could walk them to their favorite ice cream parlor, or drive them to a nice coffee house, or just to a park !

10 If on the phone or chatting, try and send them an email or a e-card which they can see once the conversation is over !!
I am sure we all know how to take care of people who are close to us, however being humans we gotta remind ourselves of what is right and what is not, at times !!!
And most of the time, people know how to resolve their own issues, we just help them by being around while they are making their lives better !!!
And now when TATAs have decided to move away from Singur, she tells a rally that she does not want the TATAs to leave !!! If that was the case, why did she not make efforts to ensure that a compromise is reached when there were discussions…
She also wants the 400 acres to be returned to farmers in Singur !!! Well… I am trying to understand how can the land on which an industry is going to be built will go back to the farmers !!!
I am not a fan of how the land acquisition works in India either… because the poor farmer does not really end up anywhere, except with some compensation for the land he had and maybe a job which does not utilize his key skill, “Farming”… I have had major arguments over this with friends who advocated industrialization and modernization of places as the factor that influences growth !!! While I agree to them that its important, the basic needs of a farmer cannot be neglected and his only means of earning taken away !!! Also the land is a resource which will not increase… its a constant value… taking anything away from that constant is only going to reduce the total !!!
What makes the entire thing worse is the involvement of the politicians who seem to be the only ones gaining anything out of the entire sequence of events !!!
The solutions to these can be simplified, I wonder why this cannot be done !!!
1. Identify parts of land that are less productive or are not major sources of earning/living
2. Break the projects down into smaller chunks and build them up on the land which when taken away causes minimum loss to the farmers.
3. When the plans are initiated, identify the people getting effected, and prepare them for the future (Capacity Building, knowledge sharing) ; I know of this being done for a few highway projects and this prepares the one effected much better and well in advance.
4. Hire professionals to do both the acquisition, and capacity building and at the same time have a governance mechanism in place. The governance mechanism should have everything right from the blueprint to the completion of projects along with the capacity building and compensations in its scope.
5. Ensure the local politicians do not cash on the opportunity in the name of caste, creed, function, area or anything !!!
6. Ensure there is minimum administrative interference during the entire project.
This post is not yet over, so please do not draw conclusions about what I think about it… There is much more to what I have been able to write here as of now… I am still thinking !!!
while I do that… please keep the politicians away !!! Someone for the country’s sake !!!!
Yes, because its been like a dream 🙂
50000 visits on Chai ki Dukaan
4 years of Chai Ki Dukaan
and
today
50000 visits on my flickr page !!!
This September has been a very good month to me !!! and I am glad!
Very !!!
Thank you EVERYONE !
It was a Tuesday !! and rightmore.blogspot.com was born 🙂
4 years later, and with its vaccinations !!! and good times and bad times !!!
Its still here !!!
WOW !!!
Breaking news…
5 Blasts in Delhi… and counting…
18 dead and counting…
100 injured and counting…
How many politicians have condemned this? Are we counting?
How many channels have this as the breaking news? Are we counting?
How many hours of effortless masala story we are going to see on TV now? Are we counting?
More than 5 cities in the last one year AND Counting !!!
Looks like we are inviting someone for their capability demonstration in blasting bombs in the least complicated way !!!
Come to a city, plant the bombs, blast them… kill a few people too.. and leave some live so that they can be pulled out before the entire system is questioned… and move to a new city !!! Simple !!!
We are counting !!! We will keep counting !!!
The saddest part is that its some people from us only who felicitate this, and its people from us only who suffer…
I am interested in the land acquisition policies, processes, the rehabilitation and employment responsibilities etc and hence was interested in the entire sage of events. If you also have been reading bits and pieces and wondering the whats and why of Singur, this should help.
Click here.
or
copy paste the following link in your browser window (for me its Chrome these days) :
http://www.ibnlive.com/news/nano-saga-twists-and-turns-so-far/73066-3.html
And I came around this article today :
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/51_of_businesses_owned_by_SCSTOBCs/rssarticleshow/3456486.cms (copy and paste in your browser)
The article says that : “Over half of all business establishments in the country — 51% to be precise — are today owned by the socially disadvantaged sections, mostly OBCs, with a slim contribution coming from SCs and STs. “
Now is this just a chance? or because of a certain capability to do good things? And if this is capability, why the hell is there a fight for reservations? I don’t understand !!! I would want to believe that the so called neglected part of the society is equally capable as the “General” category.
Why can’t some people chew with their mouths closed?
I think that sound is a top contender for the most irritating sound on this planet !!!
ugh !!!